Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Challenges For Myself This Mother's Day

With Mother's Day around the corner I've been thinking a lot about how I hope my kids see me. And lately, I've fallen short of being that Mom. Honestly, the older they've gotten the harder it is for me to stay patient when they misbehave (lots of talking back and whining). Today I'm praying for a patient heart. I'll never forget something I once read that said, 'People don't remember what you say, they remember how you make them feel.' I want my kids to feel safety and love when they think 'Mom'. I've been doing a lot of disciplining them, which is being a parent, but I want to correct them kinder, gracefully.

My heart is for Maxwell and Ella...
To hear a calm voice, even when I'm frustrated or angry.
To see more of my smile instead of my frown.
To find security in our routines, so they know what to expect no matter what mood I'm in.
To feel safe and giddy when I run to give their Daddy a kiss when he gets home from work.

When they think about our days,
I want them to think about dance parties in the kitchen.
More of me playing with them.
Adventures outside.
Laughter on car rides.
Counting, spelling, imagining.

I want to model treating people with kindness.
With my words and actions.
I want to be quick to forgive and quick to ask for forgiveness, including asking for theirs when I'm wrong.
I want them to see honest.

I want them to dream big.
I want to nurture their strengths and give them the gift of confidence.
I want them to feel heard.
Even if I don't agree with them, I want their voices to feel important, because they are.

Most of all, I want them to understand that I treasure the privilege of being their Mom. I know they won't remember all that we did these first years of their lives, but I want them to feel the foundation of love that we've built together.

I'll always fall short but I refuse to lower my mark. For today, it's starting simple. With an intentional choice of how I control my voice. To speak, not yell. To chose calm over chaos.

1 comment:

Chicago Mom (Heather) said...

This is so beautiful. It literally brought tears to my eyes. I need to make these same changes, and pray for patience too. Just this morning I yelled at Keira so ferociously she cried. I mean - I was ugly.

This is such a challenge for me. To discipline with grace and in a quiet way. Thank you, thank you for writing this.